• I am a Christian, raised in a Christian home, a married mom of grown children and a grandmother. My husband is also a Christian, raised in a Christian home. We have been involved in non-profit Christian service for 56 years. Moody Radio, Focus on the Family and similar ministries have been valued supports to our family for years.

• My qualification - a mom

I, as a mom who prayed and searched for answers for decades, have, since 2003 especially, spent thousands of hours online reading research papers, devouring medical lectures online and in person by many excellent SUCCESSFUL highly degreed researchers, university professors and doctors from many areas of medicine.  The more I learn, the more I conclude that we only see the “edges of His (God’s) ways.” (Job 26:14)  At best we know so little (a whisper) and must be acutely aware that ultimately our breath is in His hands. 

I am not a degreed doctor or scientist, but as a searching mom I can share what I have found.  I encourage you to investigate these issues for yourself in tandem with your “extra mile” professional.  I also caution you to be ever mindful of incredible corporate corruption that has cleverly covered it’s tracks and led many many of us in detrimental directions before we learned better.

• Gender:

  I believe God originally created us male or female. However, that is not all He had to say about gender. He knew toxic influences introduced since the Fall of Man in the Garden of Eden would interfere with gender and create beautiful people who, on a spectrum, are both male and female or neither.  He gave instructions in Scripture for appropriate provision for them.  They are beloved to Him and created in His image.

• Gender variations vs. same sex attraction:

  I recognize these issues are different, apples and oranges.  They are often incorrectly conflated.

• Marriage:

  I believe in marriage between one man and one woman for as long as both shall live.

I accept that God provided for divorce, not always remarriage, under certain conditions due to the hardness of our hearts.

• Attraction:

I believe God designed men to be attracted to women and women to be attracted to men. 

I believe true same-sex attraction may, in many, but not all, cases, may be caused by toxic chemicals and other environmental factors.  I accept that same-sex attraction may not be a choice a person has deliberately made, and it may or might not be reprogrammable.

Same-sex attraction is not same-sex behavior, nor should such be assumed.

I consider that “in-born same-sex attraction” while not a willful choice, still requires strict control similarly to that of a heterosexually attracted man who should not “look at a woman to lust for her.”  I believe same-sex attraction cannot be acted upon, hence, sadly, celibacy may be necessary. I am aware that some Christians disagree.

• Same sex behavior

: I do not see room for same-sex behavior in Scripture under any conditions.

I am aware that some Christians reinvestigated this issue and disagree under specific circumstances.  If their opposite conclusions are correct, I pray God’s mind becomes perfectly clear to us all.

Those who believe same sex behavior is Scriptural under certain circumstances, (ie., marriage to one same-sex partner for life) assumed, among other arguments, that since true same-sex attraction in some cases can be “in-born”, not chosen, that God designed this as an acceptable lifestyle option. These people, whom I have contacted, were not aware of “man-made” endocrine disruption nor that it can affect both attraction and gender, when they drew their conclusion. 

I personally concluded that God did not originally design our bodies to be same-sex attracted or to include same sex behavior as an acceptable option. It appears that toxic influences present since the Fall of Man in the Garden of Eden onward may have created this dynamic in some dear people.

In many other cases, whether heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual, some individuals may willfully choose to engage in same sex behaviors.  I accept that in God’s sight this is sin for reasons He best understands since He designed us.  I encourage these people to desist from those behaviors and allow God to guide them from His Word to a lifestyle that honors Him.

I have sadness for those precious, gifted people who are same sex attracted not by their choice.They contribute immensely to us all.  I suggest we are responsible to accept and socially include those so affected, and assist them to live (necessarily difficult) but beloved moral lives of significance and honor among us.

Eight situations gradually introduced me to gender variation, same sex attraction, and endocrine disruption over about 20 years.  Those situations are described here for those who wish the details.  Today most people have experienced a similar timeline.

1995- I became aware of a Christian family whose child who was born neither male nor female, (or both?).  They graciously supported their child and doubtless as a result the child also accepted their situation. I am not aware how it was managed. It was my first contact with the “both male/female” dilemma (other than a newspaper article on hermaphroditism). I was impressed by the family’s Godly care of their child.

2000- More Christian friends faced the challenge of a (perceived) sister who underwent “female to male” transition (FtM). From afar I watched that family group struggle through the Scriptural implications and chaos created between family members. My friend, a brother to the FtM sibling, shared with me that “We need to let these people tell us who they are.” I pondered his conclusion for years, wondering, again, this could even happen?

2003 - My daughter and I attended a gardening lecture in which the speaker explained that in the vicinity of industrial plants that manufacture lawn and agricultural chemicals, some children were being born with both male and female reproductive anatomy. I was disturbed and concerned that I had used those  chemicals.

2004- Our family experienced unusual, scary health problems that sent me digging deep in the medical literature, seeking answers.  We learned  adjustments required to deal with health issues that God placed in our path. In that process, I began to purchase food from an organic CSA farm run by an older, mature, sober, God-fearing man whom I trusted.

In 2010, this man informed me that he had just returned from a farming conference and was deeply affected by information he learned from scientists there. He was so disturbed and burdened that he was physically bowed over. He shared that many agricultural chemicals used on our food supply, cleaning products, personal care, lawn and garden care, and many plastics, contain estrogen mimics/endocrine disruptors and can literally totally or partly change the development of boys to girls and girls to boys. To be more specific, they can mutate and morph gender related anatomy, chromosomes, and genetic expression. They can cause reproductive anomalies, alter hormones and glandular function, change sexual attraction, and alter gender both in utero and possibly redirect development in childhood.  There are myriads of possible combinations of physical, anatomical, genetic, hormonal and other disruptions. Furthermore,  endocrine disruptors contribute to a higher incidence of twins conceived and more fetal death among them. This increases the chance of chimerism in more than one process.  In one situation, one child may pass away very early in development, and the living twin may reabsorb genetic material from its sibling.  This can and has, created transgender/intersex children. if they are male or female twins, this can enhance, in some cases, create intersex gender children.

I studied the lectures my farmer friend shared and contacted those scientists and others with my questions.

In the ensuing years since that introduction to endocrine disruption, I found much more literature which supports these findings. And I contacted more scientists. I have personally witnessed concern among scientists, researchers, immunologists, endocrinologists, biochemists, mercury specialists, practitioners, etc., that these chemicals can and do, wreak havoc in countless children and young people, not to mention everyone else.

These phenomenon have occurred rarely for centuries probably from natural hormonal plants and toxins such as mercury. however, since the industrial revolution and particularly since WW 2 when war chemicals were repurposed on agricultural crops, the incidence of these cases has exploded.  DDT, dioxins, PCB’s, DES/Diethylstilbestrol, are chemicals now off the market. But those chemicals that persist in the environment, and were all endocrine disruptors.  Current endocrine disruptors include mercury, chlorine, sunscreens, pesticides and herbicides, plastic phthalates such as the bisphenols, (BPA, BPS, BPF, BPB), polycarbonates  and other plastic additives, artificial fragrances, flame retardants, dry cleaning chemicals, hair and laundry products, make up, labor induction chemicals, some artificial lighting and more .  Vaccine ingredients, which are injected, contain endocrine disrupting chemicals, heavy metals, and aborted human male and female fetal cell DNA fragments. By now, 80 years later, the accumulation of these and many more toxins both in the environment and our bodies (including toxins passed across the placental barrier to future generations) has increasingly weakened the health of society, This appears to exacerbate their adverse effects even at very low doses. Many individuals today can no longer excrete toxins efficiently.

2010 - A child from a family I knew was born with serious anatomical reproductive birth defects. This prompted more investigation, prayer for this sweet child’s future, and a sense that this is real, happening now.

2011 - Another couple we knew also gave birth to a child with gender-related birth defects. Several more friend’s children also came out as same sex attracted or gender variant.

2015 - I was approached by an older woman at a retirement center who is hermaphrodite, ie. anatomically, both male and female, but mostly female including her brain.  A chemical endocrine disruptor, diethylstilbestrol (DES) was prescribed during her mother’s pregnancy. This woman sought Christ and a church home.   I led her to Christ, mentored her in the Scriptures for several years, and explained endocrine disruption.  In turn, she and some of her gender variant friends taught me a great deal about gender variation.  I gradually realized and witnessed how devastating this condition is for individuals affected by it.

Most churches do not understand the "missing piece," ie., the many consequences of environmental endocrine disruption nor the severe suffering of those whose gender or attraction has been affected by it.  It is the purpose of this website to bring these matters to the attention of the faith-based community, and anyone else who seeks to better understand the rising occurrence of gender and also, on a separate note, attraction variations.

This lack of understanding was sadly highlighted at my own church when I brought my friend for teaching and a church home. Many members treated her very well, were kind and welcoming and worked hard to understand her complicated situation.  She made friendships there and grew as a Christian. 

Sadly others, mostly the leaders, did not welcome her and some actually shunned her.

My gender variant friend had been assured from some in her community that “You are a fool to try religion! They will eat you alive.” But my friend wanted Christ, and wished to learn, worship and participate in a church family. She was extremely patient.  Sadly, after several years and very difficult moments, the leaders excluded her from communion and from a private lockable ladies’ room she had used for several years. They required her to transition to male even though they admitted she was not a man. They also required her to use the cramped men’s room, which was not even handicap accessible for her wheelchair.  Months later, they renovated the above mentioned private ladies’ room that she had previously used to be handicapped accessible.  It was marked RESTROOM, but it was too late for my friend to use it.  She was devastated by the abusive treatment, and with no restroom access, she never returned to the church.)  It was a heartbreaking breach of Christian care.  Indeed, she was "eaten alive". It is difficult for "cis" people how sensitive these people are and how much they suffer, even when they undergo some stage to their persona transition to to their real brain gender.

Many true transgender/intersex people consider Christians to be almost their worst enemies.  Some Christian organizations, not informed of the "mising piece," endocrine disruption, have attempted to passively eliminate them by driving them to suicide or homelessness.  They agitated to deny basic necessities such as birth certificates, driver’s licenses, passports, insurance and military service, etc.

Notwithstanding, even considering the treatment they have received from many Christians and churches, many in the gender variant community want to worship and have a church home.  They know God loves and accepts them.  Early on when my hermaphrodite friend announced online that she attended a women’s Bible study, she was inundated with requests to attend from other gender variant women. Others would not believe her, demanded a picture, and accused her of betraying them, “since Christians had treated their community so terribly.” Some of her Christian gender variant friends had been kicked out of their churches after years of faithful participation when they “came out”. They loved the Lord Jesus and wanted to “remember” and worship.

I advised her not to tell her friends, even the sincere ones, where she attended Bible study. The Bible Study group audience was not yet prepared for an onslaught of gender variant applicants. It broke my heart because many of these people commit suicide. Perhaps in time it can be different. May God reach and keep any earnest seeking souls.

I sincerely plead with other Christians in my church group and the Church at large to accept a challenge God has clearly laid at our doorstep. This group of precious suffering people is being mistreated by the Christian community in ways I have never seen any other group ill-treated. Not pedophiles (including teachers, Christian pastors and priests), nor unfaithful spouses, drunkards, murderers, prostitutes, Thieves, prisoners, mentally ill, narcissists, gossips or any other category of seeking souls has been as publicly and insultingly rejected out of hand and misunderstood by the Christian community as these people. Let’s remember they were often injured by toxic chemicals that are freely served at most of our churches, even sprayed on church lawns where our children play.

Christians have a widespread spooky perception of “transgender” people that has originated from confusing them with “cis” (typically gendered) cross dressers and drag queens. These actors cross dress for sport or performance onstage. Transgender pornography, deliberately choreographed and played by “cis” actors, has also played a role. How did that happen??? Why has transgender porn shaped Christians’ perspective at all? By contrast, even "cis" heterosexual porn which sadly is a problem among Christians has NOT similarly, spookily influenced our perspective of “cis” men and women who engage in pornographic activities??

Surely Satan has created a twisted public perception of a largely unoffensive demographic community that contributes positively to society, and wishes to fly, miserably, under the radar.

What will happen to our own kids as they come out?? Will they watch my friend’s and other’s vain struggle to be allowed to “Remember” Christ in His death?  Will they give up and run away without even asking for our help? Will they commit suicide? They have been and are now being born among us. Will we stand idly by and ignore, gossip and shred them to ribbons??

I have attempted to “sit by the captives”, Ezekiel 3:15.  “I came to the exiles who lived at Tel Aviv near the Chebar River. And there, where they were living, I sat among them for seven days--deeply distressed.”  Walking alongside my friend, I learned a great deal more than I had ever dreamed of their suffering and unique needs.

Let us provide a Clean and Supportive Spiritual Social and Physical Church Environment

I beg my Christian brethren to be willing to learn specific needed lessons to serve and include these people, with Christian grace, joy and acceptance.  They include little children, young people and older adults whom God has placed in our path.  These people can help us too and contribute to Christ’s cause with their unique talents and insights.  Let us accept and support  them to live beloved moral lives of significance and honor among us.

Let us also clean up our church environment to avoid the toxic substances that exacerbated these challenges to start with!  “Let judgment begin at the House of God.” 1 Peter 4:17

We can clean up our cleaning products, handsoaps, plastics, disposable eating ware, kitchen tools and food storage, lawn care, simplify and upgrade nutrient density of meals,  etc.  

We can cancel the contemptuous stigma often heaped upon those who wish to avoid these risky substances. This strategy will allow more families to feel free to avoid them at home and choose a more healing diet and lifestyle.  

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.  (needs are met)

He makes me to lie down in green pastures; (Nutrient dense and abundant physical and Spiritual nourishment)

He leads me beside the still waters. (Stigma free social climate)

He restores my soul;  (Then children can grow and develop well and folks can heal)

He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His Name’s sake.  (Healthier often means wiser and better behaved)

Psalm 23:1-3

Let us lead our churches to literal green nutrient dense pastures and still, stigma free waters.  Let us act righteously to provide a clean, wise physical church environment, honor God’s designs, and pray for mercy!

1. This website focuses on true cases of anatomical gender variance including brain anatomy and function that does not match body anatomy. Brain gender anatomy and function, which is not easy to observe on scans, is recognized as definitive and takes priority over lower body anatomy. Science has not identified for certain what causes us to know who we “are” but it is thought to be in the brain, possibly connected to our hypothalmus and/or pineal glands and many other factors.

2. “Cis” cross dressing, “cis” drag queen behavior, and similar intentionally “chosen” alternate personas and behaviors of those who are not truly both male and female are not a major topic of this website. To such persons, it helps to remember that God Himself planned our bodies and lives to honor Him, and for our ultimate safety and happiness. His Word expressly instructs us not to cross dress. (Deuteronomy 22:5 - “A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garment, for all who do so are an abomination to the LORD your God.”) He loves us and has a reason. He is not just being difficult.

Our true gender variant friends tell us how miserable they are when they are misgendered and usually unintentionally dressed and raised in the wrong persona. God designed us to live in the persona that we actually “are”. We are not constructed for a comfortable existence otherwise. Best to take Him seriously.

3. This website does not address crude, lewd and abusive, criminal behaviors that are often unfairly attributed specifically to the true gender variant community. In fact, these are mostly behaviors that have existed across all demographics and throughout the centuries regardless of gender. They are sins against the Holy God, the very essence of love, Who agonizingly sacrificed His own life and body to pay for our sins. These behaviors are also sins against His creation, all His creatures, and the sinning individuals themselves. However, the perception that true gender variant people are particularly guilty of these behaviors is a slanderous urban legend. Statistically they are not a pedophilic community and worry extremely about abuse of children in their own community.

This website does not focus the wildly promoted abuses of those who exploit transgender issues. Christian and mainstream media have covered that piece of chaos, not always to the benefit of those who are truly affected, including our future children. Sports, rest room, and female prison debates are over of possible public gender abuse. It helps to remember that true persons who are gender variant will attempt to appear in the persona that they know they truly “are”.

In general, true gender variant people tend to avoid the spotlight. Most of them attempt to fly under the wire, to live quiet, useful, typical lives as they struggle with their difficult challenges.

The above paragraph may not be true of flamboyant “cis” cross dressers, drag queens, and others who exploit the transgender issues. We need to pray for these individuals regardless of their gender status, and offer them a much happier, safer choice. Christ and the Cross, His love, His forgiveness and His offer of eternal life cannot be compared to empty lifestyles with which many attempt to satisfy themselves.

Instead, this website focuses on the missing piece of endocrine disruption as it can affect gender and what can be done, especially by churches, to support the many truly affected individuals and their parents and families among us. They are here. They need and deserve our understanding, our respect and our acceptance into our lives and communities. Let us assist them to live beloved moral lives of significance and honor among us.

4. All visitors are welcome! Be aware this site’s objective is most specifically geared to support faith-based communities, to offer “missing piece” information and shed light on a challenging topic. Therefore, the choice of terms or language may not always be stated in a manner that the gender variant community prefers. To our gender variant friends, please accept an apology in advance. Thank you for your patience as faith-based communities gain knowledge and awareness of the realities and challenges of gender variant people. The goal is to communicate initially in language that faith-based communities can assimilate.

1. SPECIFIC USE OF “IDENTITY”, “TRANSGENDER”, “GENDER VARIANT”, AND “HERMAPHRODITE”

Identity- The term “identity” is mostly avoided on this site. It does properly relate to these people. However, in today’s social environment it often is interpreted as “gender choice” which is a misnomer.

True gender variant people insist that one does not “choose” their gender, which is thought to reside somehow in or related to the anatomical brain. They “are” their brain anatomy gender from birth. They wish to live in the brain anatomy gender they “are”.

Yes, truly gender variant people may choose to transition their mistaken outward persona and possibly their lower body anatomy to match their actual brain gender anatomy , i.e., the gender they actually " are "

Transgender -The term “transgender” is also avoided when possible, due to emotionally charged notions that term may evoke. “Transgender” is often used as a non specific umbrella term that can include cross dressing and other various abusive practices or political agendas.

However, when “transgender" is used on this website, regardless of how it is interpreted elsewhere, it denotes a person whose brain gender anatomy/function and lower body sex anatomy do not match, fully or partially.

Gender variant, or “ both male and female ” or “ neither male nor female ” are often descriptive and less inflammatory replacements for “transgender”.

Hermaphrodite – A person born with both sets of male and female anatomy. In most cases there are birth defects in one or both sets. The brain gender anatomy and function can vary a lot between male and/or female per the individuals. - Let them tell you who they are. On this website “hermaphrodite” is used as stated above to denote a person born with both sets of male and female lower body anatomy.

However, among the gender variant community,“hermaphrodite” is an older term that has largely been replaced by the less specific terms “intersex” or “transgender”.

2. WHAT DOES LGBTQIA STAND FOR?

L – Lesbian refers to sexual attraction between 2 women. It is not a behavior term and should not be interpreted as such.

G – Gay refers to sexual attraction between 2 men. It is not a behavior term and should not be interpreted as such.

B – Bisexual refers to a person who is attracted to both men and women. It is not a behavior term and should not be interpreted as such.

T – Transgender is often used as an umbrella term that can represent a number of interpretations depending on the context. On this website it is used specifically to refer to people whose brain gender anatomy and lower body anatomy do not match.

Q – Questioning or Queer – “Questioning” refers to a person who is questioning their gender assumed at birth.

“Queer”- usually someone in a grey area between various gender or attraction categories.

I – Intersex is a more common term today that partly replaces the older “hermaphrodite” label. Intersex refers to individuals with various combinations of both male and female brain and lower body anatomy. In contrast to “hermaphrodite “ which usually refers to mostly full sets of both male and female genitalia, “intersex” can include more diverse combinations. “Transgender” on this website denotes brain anatomy/function that does not match body anatomy.

A – Agender refers to a person whose brain gender anatomy/function is neither male or female.

3. GLOSSARY OF OTHER COMMON TERMS AS THEY ARE USED ON THIS WEBSITE

Anatomy – The bodily structure of a plant or animal or human or of any of its parts. On this site the term “anatomy” may include any factor related to the person, plant, or animal, including electromagnetic fields, the newly recognized biofield, and organs only recently discovered or labeled such as the interstitium.

Cis A person who is fully male or female, ie., typically gendered.

Cross Dresser – a person who intentionally dresses in the opposite gender for entertainment, or other reasons. People also may cross-dress at times to hide or escape capture.

Many people confuse cross dressers with true gender variant persons, to the frustration of the true gender variant people.

Drag queen – Drag Queens are “cis” people who are actors. They cross dress in dramatic eye catching styles to perform on stage for a paycheck.

Endocrine disruption – Anatomical and functional changes to body processes caused by natural and man-made chemicals and toxins that mimic hormones, trash enzymes, mutate chromosomes and other interferences.

FtM – (mistakenly assumed Female) transition to Male – This could be limited to “persona only” as in young children, or hormonal and in some cases, surgical transition for adults.

Gender- Anatomical configuration and function of the brain, hormones, and related unknown factors that determine who a person “is”, male/female or both/neither.

Hypo machoism – Girls who are misidentified as male at birth due to a mismatch between lower male anatomy and female brain anatomy/function are less accepted than boys who are misidentified as female. Society is much more accepting of a mistakenly assumed “girl” who is tomboyish than a mistakenly assumed “boy” who is effeminate.

Therefore, the girls (misidentified as boys) learn to behave as boys because they are better accepted and better treated when they mimic the behaviors and interests of boys, such as working on cars, male sports, etc.

This phenomenon is termed “hypo machoism” and can be very confusing to families if later the child they assumed was a boy announces they are female. Family and friends point to the previous male oriented behaviors and interests in which the child engaged and are shocked by the unexpected disclosure that all along the child was primarily female. Understanding hypo machoism may assist the family to better understand their child.

MtF – (mistakenly assumed Male) to Female - This could be limited to “persona only” as in young children, or include hormonal and in some cases, also surgical, transition for adults.

Non-binary – This can mean a number of complicated individual brain gender anatomy/function variations that do not fit either category of male or female.

Persona A person’s outward appearance, behavior and lifestyle. This includes hair, dress, activities, and interests. A gender variant person may change their hair style, dress, and activities to match who they “are” in their brain anatomy. This may or may not include more permanent additions of hormones or surgery.

Sex(anatomical) – The anatomical configuration of the genital and reproductive system. When endocrine disruption is present, anatomical genital sex and anatomical brain gender may not align.

Transition The process of aligning one’s physical appearance, persona, name and possibly hormones and anatomy to the gender they “are” in their brain.

Wanna-be – This is a descriptive term coined by a true gender variant person to describe persons who may not be truly severely gender variant, or not variant at all. Ie., they may be “cis” meaning they are typically gendered. These dear people may be drawn to consider gender transition for a variety of other reasons. They may believe “girls have it easier”, or they are unhappy and depressed and want to make a total new start in life. They may be obsessed with desire for a particular body part, or jump on the “transgender bandwagon, fad or trend” due to peer pressure or other reasons. They may be only mildly affected feminized males or masculinized females.

True gender variant people will likely advise such persons against a persona (or beyond, ie., hormones and surgery) transition. They sense that the person is not actually gender variant or only mildly so, and it would likely be a disaster. Surgical transition is a very difficult, painful and ghastly process with lifelong maintenance required.

Wanna-be’s most probably may not receive the compensatory emotional relief from transition that true gender variant people may desperately desire and possibly benefit from in order to function well in society.

When questioned how they handle their dysphoria, wanna-be’s often do not suffer dysphoria.

Gender variant people note that the term “I want to be” (a girl or boy), ie., “wanna-be” is often stated by people who are not sufficiently gender variant to warrant successful transition.

By contrast, truly gender variant people are more likely to state that they “ are ” the gender they “are” which is not their assumed birth gender. They also suffer dysphoria, often severely, which can interfere with their ability to function socially and otherwise.

Unfortunately, teens today may be prompted to use such verbiage to persuade parents and professionals that they are more seriously variant than they actually are (or are not at all). This may complicate the counseling and decision process. Prayer and discernment are needed!

CHART OF TERMS THAT SHOULD NOT BE CONFLATED WITH EACH OTHER

This chart covers enough terms to communicate needed concepts. Furthermore it must not be assumed without proof that gender variant, same sex attracted, or any other specific individuals engage in such activities.